Saturday, January 28, 2012

Do Nice Guys Finish Last???


Every "single" female, hopes to one day, cross paths with the man of her dreams. The qualities of this male, is crucial for a woman, in search of a soul-mate. Most females would tell you that they want a overall "nice guy." The guy that is everything that a nice guy embodies. Caring, understands, listens and lets a female get her way. What happens when the female finds a man, that meets her standards??? Is she completely content or is she feeling incomplete because the guy is too nice???

There is a feeling amongst men, of woman saying that they want a "nice guy" but subconsciously, want a "bad boy." A man that has a backbone and provides excitement to a relationship. I gathered from ladies, that most would rather be with a man that gives them "action." A argument here and there, or a chick number to call once in a while lol.  Those females would say the "nice guys"are great in the beginning but become boring after a while. Most "nice guys" are finding it more difficult to attract females. Men would argue that being nice to a woman, ends up in a platonic friendship. In this case, the guy feels like he has finished last because the female yearns for the "bad boy." 

So do females really want the "nice guy" they ask for, or do they want the "action???"  I think Mary J. Blige spoke for the females, saying "bad boys aint no good, good boys aint no fun."  Check out "Mr. Wrong," as Mary displays her displeasure, but cant bring herself to leave her man.

8 comments:

  1. Great topic. I think women want a man that is a man. You know all the characteristics we associate with being manly. You want a man with a past but also a great future
    You want someone who has lived but never did anything he couldn't come back from. In simpler terms we need to know that if something pops off, you got our back and your not a punk

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  2. I think women get caught up in perception too much. they want the 'good' guy to please their parents or even to exercise control. shell never admit she's still attached to her ex named Reggie who used to check her ever now and then. Reggie probably was an egotistical rebel who did wat he wanted. Still she loved him...maybe he presented a challenge hmmnnnn

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  3. Shout out To Real Cats like Reggie!

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  4. I think this topic works for girls too...men don't want good girls either...they say they do and when they get one....it falls apart. nice girls always finish last too!

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  5. I do not like this song. It feel it is just another way for women to justify staying in bad relationships. I'm looking for mr. Right. Great article.

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  6. Women don't need a super sensitive spineless man. A strong woman can't mess wit a man that's easy to walk over n control. personally what love in my husband is how loving and caring he is, his rough take no shit side, let me get what I want my way and can put his foot down wit me when he need to, the whole package is a turn on. I let him be the man and play his part n I'm his everything. That can't happen with mr. nice n sensitive n spineless bitch-ass...just saying

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  7. So it seems as though the vibe is that nice guys finish last. Time to be a ass hole lol

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  8. There is nothing wrong with being the "nice" guy. Caring, affectionate, able to express your feelings, so on and so on. However, I need to know that if I'm threatened physically, or disrespected that my man can handle the situation. In my opinion women want to know that their man can protect them and if they don't have a backbone when dealing with their lady it's possible that they will back down if confronted with conflict by another man. I don't want a bad boy, I don't want the drama, headache, heartache. I don't want to argue with you about BS, nor do I want to run up behind no other chick, I just want to feel safe when I'm with my man.

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